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When I was younger I was often teased by family and friends as I am sure we all have!  According to the article segmented below, this is not a bad thing and helps us to develop socially (although at the time it felt like having your undies pulled over your head in public!).  Today, as an adult, I am still faced with people (usually ignorant about  my chosen path) passing snide comments, joking about my flexibility, diet or quiet, demeanor.

Gandhi leads by example

Gandhi said "Be the change you want to see in the world" I understand this as the ultimate practice of Leading by Example.

The other evening one of my younger students came up after class, spurred on by his friend, to ask a question: “What do you do when people tease you about practising Yoga?” I must admit I was taken by surprise at first, but the question was a genuine plea for some sort of answer. I also know from my own experience, especially when you are just starting to explore something new,  we question if it is worth while to stick to it, or maybe it’s easier for everyone if you just do things the way you always have.  Three little words I think answers the question:

LEAD BY EXAMPLE

… and remember why. When you live your life from a place of honesty and truth you might find that, while at first people don’t know how to engage with you (or what to cook you for dinner when you visit) and may react by teasing, the more they are exposed (however subtly) to your style of living, and observe the benefits you receive in your life, they start to question their own.   If they start to see a change in you for the better they may start to question the value of what you are doing and try it for themselves!  It is by far one of the best gifts you can offer someone else – leading by example.

This said, with great power comes great responsibilty (Spiderman said it too!).  If you are going to lead by example, don’t compromise your integrity, your honesty, or your self worth. Say what you mean and mean what you say. If you eat fish sometimes – you are not a vegetarian. If you don’t practice meditation daily – don’t say that you do. Don’t be afraid to admit to liking Bryan Adams and Rage Against the Machine in the same breath! It’s the little things that make the difference. None of us are perfect. Regardless of how far along your path you are there are always pot holes! Accept that and don’t be shy to admit it! Make sure the example you lead by is not with an iron fist of “I am always right. Everything I do is the only way.” Let people discover their own way. You are simply opening the door, it’s up to them to choose which way they go from there.

Admittidly my answer to my students question is not a quick fix. It takes guts and balls to stand up for what you believe to be the truth much more than to retort sarcastically, or punch them in the gut. Nobody said that living authentically would be easy – but it’s definitely worth a try!

Teasing vs. Bullying
Teasing is misunderstood because it is often confused with bullying, which has a strictly negative impact. The way to distinguish between the two is by the intent. The goal of teasing is to create closer relationships and make connections. The goal of bullying is to harm. Teasing turns into bullying when kids use it to gain greater social status. David Nelson, associate professor of human development at Brigham Young University, has found that even 4- and 5-year-olds will bully to increase their social power.
Of course, even the most positive teasing turns sour if it goes too far. To determine whether the teasing is positive or not, it’s essential to look at context. For example, if kids joke about a child’s shoes, that’s different from focusing on something much harder to control, such as being overweight. Also, says Keltner, “Teasing a kid behind a gym out of sight is dangerous, whereas teasing in front of a group of friends is less threatening.”
The line between teasing and bullying blurs again when the child being teased doesn’t know how to respond. “Everyone has a different set of personal boundaries,” says Rosalind Wiseman, author of Queen Bees and Wannabes, “and that’s confusing for kids.” But, she says, if a child overreacts or withdraws in response to teasing, she may lose out on important social experiences.”
Taken from http://www2.scholastic.com Just Teasing article.

Nothing compares to Durban – the beautiful winter days, the inviting ocean, the hottest stadium, and a promenade that showcases it all.  Now Suncoast Casino, in association with Lisa Raleigh, is giving you another reason to head out this winter with the launch of SUNfit at Suncoast’s SUNdeck.

Lisa Raleigh, Lifestyle and Wellness Expert joined forces with Suncoast in 2006, when they launched the weekly free-to-the-public Yoga on the Beach experience. In response to the popularity of these Yoga classes, Suncoast and Lisa Raleigh have answered the demand for accessible and affordable wellness with the launch of SUNfit  – healthy living does not get better or more affordable than this.

Talking about SUNfit and the association with Suncoast, Lisa says, “It has always been a dream of mine to have a platform in which to offer free exercise classes for all – SUNfit offers just that. Wellness is our right – let’s become mindful of how we treat our bodies and what emphasis we are placing on our health. The opportunity is there, now it’s up to the individual to commit to the betterment of their futures”.

SUNfit classes launch on Monday, 11 July 2011 with daily classes from 17:30 – 18:30 and entry is FREE – this is fun, functional, free fitness to kick-start your exercise routine or supplement your current training program.

Yoga, Kickboxing, Zumba, Bootcamp and Kettlebell – whatever gets your heart rate going,
SUNfit’s got it covered!

The SUNfit weekly exercise schedule takes place at Suncoast Casino SUNdeck as follows:

Monday:              Kickboxing (17:30 – 18:30)

Tuesday:              Zumba (17:30 – 18:30)

Wednesday:      Bootcamp (17:30 – 18:30)

Thursday:            Yoga (17:30 – 18:30)

Friday:                  Kettlebell Training (17:30 – 18:30)

SUNfit has highly qualified, expert trainers to put you through your paces with classes suitable for all fitness levels. All the necessary equipment is provided, so come along with an exercise towel, bottle of water and a smile. Take a deep breath of fresh fitness with SUNfit – exercise with a view.

As the SUNfit experience is launching in winter, all classes will take place under floodlights, with weather updates and class announcements made daily on Facebook – Lisa Raleigh fan page or @LisaRaleighSA (twitter).
SUNfit is daily. SUNfit is free. SUNfit is fresh. SUNfit at Suncoast Beach, in association with Lisa Raleigh

Yoga at a Casino?

It may sound a little strange… but I have been teaching a Yoga class at Suncoast Casino for just over 2 years now! It is a free, gratis and for nothing class sponsored by Lisa Raleigh and Suncoast Casino. Teaching this class is such a blessing! The class is outside on the grass, overlooking the sea as the sun sets behind the tall buildings. The students are amazing and it is really humbling and inspiring to teach them. All ages, shapes and sizes, strengths and ability. Everyone working together for the greater good of improving their health and overall wellness.

Every now and then some one will come up after the class and chat or ask questions affirming that they really are enjoying the classes and gaining deeper insight and understanding. Once a lady came up and was telling me about how she is using something I said in class as her mantra and how this really helped her in tough times! I don’t know exactly what it is – maybe that the classes are free, maybe that they are outside overlooking the sea – but it is such a pleasure teaching here!

Each person comes of their own volition (even in Winter when it gets chilly and in October when it’s howling a gale on the beach!). Because of this it seems there is no egoism or showing off. There is a focus and concentration amongst the students that makes me tingle sometimes! Their dedication and enthusiasm is electric. I love most of all when I crack a silly joke, or get them to “turn the corners of your mouth up” (try it! I dare you!) and they laugh or smile or fall over… Sometimes we are lucky enough to watch the full moon rising over the sea while the orange ball of fire sets opposite.

It is a very different class.  Out in the open we have to deal with the elements, with people passing by, sand, birds – you name it! I thought when I first started teaching this class, that it would become a burden and a slogg. I can’t teach ‘properly’ and make the same adjustments as I do in a studio class. The students wont appreciate the class because they don’t have to pay to attend. I’ll get drunkards from the Casino joining and messing everything up! NOT TRUE!

Yes, I can’t make the same adjustments and corrections as I can in a studio class, but people are practicing Yoga! They are getting out there and doing something for themselves!

I am truely inspired and filled with joy every Thursday evening. I am grateful to Lisa Raliegh for starting this initiative. She is also taking it a step further! Suncoast and Lisa have begun a SUNFIT initiative offering Zumba, Kettlebells, Bootcamp and Kickboxing every eveing 17h30 – 18h30 FOR FREE!!! No excuses! Be inspired and get moving!